afraid to home school

She's your first-born, yes? Well, that mindset is common among first-borns, especially first-born onlies. And as a first-born only, I can relate to your dd.

Unless you and your dh are ax murderers, I can't imagine anything you could do to mess up your daughter.

If you decide to homeschool, will you let your dd finish the school year, or withdraw her before then (such as at Christmas vacation)?

She still counts as a first-born.

She might feel like a misfit later on life whether you homeschool or not.

Indiana is a "green" state, meaning you don't have to get anyone's permission or notify anyone that you're going to homeschool. No testing, no nothin'. Here's HSLDA's analysis of IN law. Personally, I think that anyone who homeschools should be a member of HSLDA, even folks who live in green states.  At any rate, the first day of the semester after Christmas vacation, you should send a letter to your dd's school, informing them that she will not be back because you will be teaching her at home. IMHO, you should request her records, as well. You are not asking permission or anything; you're just officially notifying the school of your dd's "attendance" so that they won't think she's truant. And it's a good idea to send that letter  certified, with a return receipt. The reason you send a letter is so that you don't have to listen to someone trying to talk you out of it, or asking you to sign forms that are not required by law. The reason you want the signed return receipt is so that you have proof that you withdrew your dd from the school.

I took older dd out of a Christian school that used all ABeka, because the poor thing was burned out by Easter. She loved school, and was doing well academically, but her whole personality had changed (can't give you exact details any more, 'cuz this was a loooong time ago, lol). When I took her out, I determined not to do anything that looked like school until she was ready; it took 18 months to undo what had been done during her time at school.

I homeschooled both dds until they began taking classes at the local community college when they were 14 (although I did start a little school at my church, and younger dd came with me the first year).