During our lives, we have many people who influence us. As children, a major influence is adults, especially teachers. For many, the experience we had with our teachers can affect us well into our adulthood, if not for life. This can either be positive or negative. Until recently, there had never been a survey completed on this topic. However, “Get Ready to Lead” did complete such a survey with some startling results.

Most would expect that poor teaching would have led the complaints but that was not the case. The number one bad experience with a teacher was HUMILIATION. These adults had been ridiculed in front of their classmates for wrong answers or even hitting the wrong note in music class. This was by far the greatest complaint. It also had the longest reaching effect. For the person hitting a wrong note, she still does not sing in front of others. For others, the teacher stole their self-confidence. It has even led to many homeschooling so that their child would not experience the same trauma.

The next four categories were closely related to the number one:

2nd place – DEVESTATION: Students were belittled or compared to older siblings and told they were not as good or “why can’t you be like your sister/brother”. This is one that we, as homeschoolers, also need to be very careful of. We need to remember that each child is different and each has gifts and weaknesses. We have to help our children to bring those gifts forward.

3rd place – INDIFFERANCE: Teachers who didn’t express an interest in the student themselves. Many of these students felt the teacher didn’t like them.

4th place – POOR PUNISHMENT: There were two sides to this one. In the first scenario, the teacher was unable to control the classroom, which resulted in children not being taught. In the second scenario, a student was punished for something beyond their control, like a learning difference that was not being met. They often met with strict punishment or extra work (another form of punishment) since they could not do what everyone else could. This often led to adults feeling they were “stupid” and just could not learn.

5th – ANGER: Many respondents of the survey stated, with specific accounts, that their teacher would lose control of their temper unexpectively and sometimes frequently. This led children to fear their teacher. It is often difficult for someone to learn when they are in a state of fear.

In each of the above, effects could be still seen far into the surveyee’s lives. We, as homeschoolers, need to insure that we do not repeat these mistakes within our own schools.

Come back tomorrow to read about the positives obtain from teachers and maybe get a few ideas of what to do in your school.

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Written by: Susan Harris News Editor

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