This is Rebecca Kochenderfer from I woke up this morning with a knot in my stomach, feeling stressed about everything that has to get done. So I reached for my copy of Joy Journal. It’s helping.

From Joy Journal by Rebecca Kochenderfer (available from —


Here’s an experiment you can try that I call, “The Joy Experiment.” Just for today, decide that you are only going to do things that you enjoy. No have-to’s or should-do’s. Today is for want-to’s.

Sometimes joy comes from resting, sometimes from keeping busy. Sometimes from being alone, and sometimes by being around others. Starting now, promise yourself that today you are not going to do anything you don’t “want” to do. You may think you don’t want to go to work, but you will probably discover that you do want to go because you want that paycheck. You may decide that you don’t “want” to do the dishes, but in the end you either do them because you want to have things clean, or you don’t do them and no harm comes from it. Contrary to popular belief, the earth will not open up and swallow you if you do what you want to do, instead of what you have to do.

Today you are going to discover the things that bring you joy. This is no small thing. Joy is unique to each person and is often elusive. We get so wrapped up in the busyness of our days that we forget how beautiful and fleeting life is.

Joy Journal focuses your attention so that it’s easier for you to tune into the joy that is already all around you.


– What joyful things are you looking forward to today?

– What things do you NOT want to do today? Promise yourself that you don’t have to do them unless you want to.

– What are you grateful for today?

– Now, as you go through your day, keep asking yourself: What do I want to do next? What do I WANT to do now?


Wishing you a day of joyful discovery, Rebecca Kochenderfer Senior Editor


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